Unleash your natural talent and you’ll do well

“If you are an anvil, be patient; if you are a hammer, be strong.” Kurdish proverb

To be a person of integrity means to act with conviction. You do that best when you are yourself, not trying to be someone else.

To be happy, you need to listen to your inner voice, and do what it says.

To be successful, happy and a person of integrity means doing something most people can’t do: simply acknowledge who you are, and just be that person.

If deep down you are an anvil, you gain integrity by being patient. You become happiest and will succeed when you are patient.

If you’re the hammer deep down, being strong leads you to the promised land.

We do our best when we use the natural talents we’re born with. Education and schooling may give us skills to earn a living, but we will never truly live, until we become what we were meant to be, what we really are deep inside. If you haven’t found it, keep searching. Who we are is in there and you will know it one day, as long as you never stop the search.

 

 

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The torment of a liar: who to trust

“The liars punishment is not in the least that he is not believed, but that he cannot believe anyone else.” George Bernard Shaw

A white lie here and there is innocent. We all tell little white lies so as not to hurt the feelings of others: “your haircut is nice”

Those who lie more often than that, who do it consistently, create their own torment. The biggest side effect of lying is the liar can’t trust anyone else. The liar can never believe anyone else. A liar who does it well always suspects others of doing the same thing to him.

The better a person is at lying, the less he or she will believe anything anyone else says. They create their own hell, never believing anyone. They cannot love, for love requires trust. They might be loved, but only until their lies are found out.

Eventually, the liar becomes a lonely person. A lonely paranoid person.

Overcome your desires to improve your chances for success

“There is no calamity greater than lavish desires.
There is no greater guilt than discontentment.
And there is no greater disaster than greed.” Lao-Tzu

Stop confusing need with desire. Stop confusing goals with desire. Everyone has needs which must be fulfilled. Everyone should have goals to strive for. Lavish desires will be the ruin of you.

Desire too much and you will never be content with your accomplishments. Desire too much and it will lead to your downfall. Dream of becoming great, or of great success and strive for it, but do not let it consume you.

Desire which consumes you becomes greed. Greed is what topples nations. Greed is what leads to the disaster of many successful people. A desire in your heart and a desire for more are two different things.

Desire to love will lead you to happiness. Desire for more will lead you to ruin. Be careful what you desire.

 

Never confuse principles (be unique) and style (go with the crowd)

“In matters of style, swim with the current. In matters of principle, stand like a rock.”  Thomas Jefferson

If you want to be socially accepted ,keep up with the latest styles. This would be what the majority of the people are wearing.

If you want to be morally accepted and respected, be your own person. When it comes to making decisions regarding your beliefs and principles, DON’T look at what everyone else is doing but rather do what’s in your heart.

Your principles are what make you unique and special. Swimming with the current when it comes to principles is the easy way out, it means you’ve compromised your principles in order to be socially accepted.

If you want to be known as a person of principles, stand like a rock and act in keeping with your convictions. The best way to stand out in a crowd is not by wearing fashion that is different than everyones, but by having principles which are unbending, and as a result stand out.

Let your conscience be your guide

“There is no witness so terrible, no accuser so powerful as conscience which dwells within us.” Sophocles

The first sign of a normal, moral and just person is having a conscience. The first sign of an immoral, psychopathic, deranged person, is the lack of a conscience, or a warped sense of right and wrong.

Conscience is what nags people who do something they know is not right. People have been known to confess to murder decades after getting away with the crime, because their entire life was unbearable, pursued by their conscience every step of the way. Those people finally find relief only after giving in to their conscience.

A conscience is a very powerful thing. Nurture it and keep it alive. You conscience will keep you on the right path, not the path someone else says is right, but the path deep down you know is right.

Do something against your conscience, and the approval of the entire world would not be enough to save you from a guilty conscience.

Do you walk the walk, or just talk the talk?

“Deliberation is the function of the many; action is the function of one.” Charles de Gaulle

Are you one of those who talks all day long about what you’re going to do? Then pat yourself on the shoulder, you are among the majority. You are part of the group that talks, but never does anything.

Those who do something never talk, and when they do talk, it is only to talk about what they already did, not what they’re thinking about doing.

Thinkers are a dime a dozen, they are all over the place. If you want to be heard, let your actions speak for you, or walk the walk.

Look at everyone around you. How many of them keep talking about what they’re going to do. YOU are probably one of them. STOP talking and go do it! BE THE ONE who’s function is to act. BE THE ONE who reaches a dream. STOP TALKING AND START WALKING! It’s time to stop deliberating and time to take action.

Power makes people fear you, Character makes them love you

“No change of circumstances can repair a defect of character.” Ralph Waldo Emerson

Character defines who you are. Reputations are built on character. Become a person of good character and doors will open for you. Become a person of bad character and no amount of money will repair your character.

When you damage your character, when you have no character, no identity, no reputation, becoming rich, famous or powerful will do nothing to repair the damage done to your reputation.

You can buy obedience, you can buy false affection, you can even buy false love. You can’t buy true love or admiration, those come with character. Damage your character and it will always be known and remembered.

Protect your character the way you would protect a priceless jewel. Money, fame and power may come and go, but your prized character will stay with you to your grave and beyond.

Greatness is for those who find their passion, not those who want to be great

“You don’t become great by trying to be great. You become great by wanting to do something, and then doing it so hard that you become great in the process.” Randall Munroe

The best way to become great is to look at how others before you have done it. Look at Leonardo Da Vinci, Beethoven, Shakespeare, Einstein, Rembrandt, James Dean, Marlon Brando, Elizabeth Taylor and everyone else whom you consider great. They all have something in common. They became great by doing what they loved.

Their greatness didn’t show until they found their passion. Some of them were poor, so you have to make a choice; doing what makes you come alive, even if it means dying poor, or doing what others think you should do to be successful. Sometimes one leads to the other, but not always.

Find something that makes your head ache because you love it so much. Find something that you love so much you’d do it for free. Find something that you can’t stop doing, or dreaming about. Find something that consumes you. Find something that ignites your passion and emotions.

Do it so hard that you sometimes have trouble breathing. Spend every waking and dreaming moment thinking about it.

In doing so, you will become great at what you’re doing.

By that point, you will not care if you become great: you will be too busy doing what you love.

 

Being moral means you can justify your sins and deeds to yourself, honestly.

“A moral being is one who is capable of comparing his past and future actions or motives, and of approving or disapproving of them.” Charles Darwin

Morality is not about doing what other people say we should be doing, or what they think is right or wrong. Who says their idea of a moral action is right or wrong? Your moral compass should not be guided by anyone else but you!

You are the person who has to live with yourself. To be a moral person means that you can look back at what you’ve done in the past and cast judgment on yourself. To be a moral person means approving of the good things you’ve done, and disapproving the bad.

The immoral person cannot do that. The immoral person sees no wrong in any actions they’ve done in the past, nor in any actions they intend to do. Just like your judgement of their actions goes by the wayside, let no other judge you. You alone, must judge yourself, and reconcile what you’ve done with your conscience.

Once you have reconciled your deeds within yourself, nothing anyone else says should matter. No one else on this planet can or should judge you! Let them jail you rather than give up your own moral judgement. You have to live with your actions, not them.

More and more people are unable to see wrong in what they do. Just because they are in the majority does not mean they are right. Just remember, one moral person can change the world. It’s been done before, and can happen again.

To truly live, you have to think and feel

“Life is a comedy for those who think and a tragedy for those who feel.” Horace Walpole

In order to truly enjoy life, you have to think. If you can think, then you can laugh. Without laughter your life becomes a miserable existence.

In order for you to love and to be loved, you have to feel, but be careful. Once you begin to feel, one of the feelings you’ll become acquainted with is heartbreak. Being able to feel means loving, and sometimes loving those who don’t or can’t love you back. That is the tragedy of life.

That is why you also need to be able to think. Use your thinking abilities to laugh at these tragedies, to know there will be other opportunities to love, and to know that one day, you will find the right person who you will truly love, and who will truly love you back.

Make sure the person you find can think, as well as feel. If they can’t think, they can’t laugh with you. If you can’t laugh together, then that really will be a tragedy.