“No man is more cheated than a selfish man.” Henry Ward Beecher
The selfish person looks at everything in terms of self. “What can I get out of this” or “What can I get out of that?” or “Why are they helping that person and not me?”
When a selfish person comes along someone who needs help, their first thought will be to ask themselves “what’s in it for me?” If they see no benefit to themselves, they will not provide assistance. When someone else comes along and provides assistance, the selfish person will think “If it was me who needed help, that person would not have stopped to help”. If the person who provided help gets rewarded, the selfish person will kick up a storm. “I saw that person first and was going to lend assistance when they jumped in ahead of me”
If someone at work gets promoted, the selfish person will feel cheated, that the promotion was gotten unfairly. If someone else gets any show of sympathy or kindness, the selfish person will grit their teeth, feeling nothing but resentment towards that person.
The selfish person can never be happy for someone else’s good fortune. The will feel cheated that the good fortune didn’t happen to them, that it was undeserved or unfairly gotten.
A selfish person will never be content or happy. They will always blame others for their situation. Regardless of what they do, or don’t do, they will feel cheated for not having gotten the same things that those around them have.
Two thoughts that are always on a selfish persons mind are: “What’s in it for me?” and “Why did that person get that and not me?”
The difference between greed and selfishness is that the greedy always want more, usually more than everyone else, will almost never share, and are usually willing to work for it. The selfish on the other hand, want what everyone else has, without having to earn it or work for it and will constantly feel cheated for not getting what everyone else has. Neither is a healthy trait.