“If ever there is tomorrow when we’re not together… there is something you must always remember. You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. But the most important thing is, even if we’re apart… I’ll always be with you.” A.A. Milne
Those are words every parent should say to every one of their children, not just once but over and over again. Your children need to hear these words from you, not just on special occasions, or when something tragic happens, or when you thought the world was ending, but constantly.
But it should not stop there.
Brothers and sisters should say those words to each other. When the parents are gone, the ones they leave behind may have no one else to look out for them, or to turn to, aside from each other.
Over time when the parents, and the brothers, and sisters are apart, those words may become forgotten. Hearing those words makes a person feel warm inside, it makes a person feel wanted and loved. Saying them only on special occasions makes it seem they are being said out of courtesy. People are supposed to be loving and nice on holidays and special occasions. Hearing those words only during the holidays, when everyone is supposed to be nice, leaves the person hearing them empty.
Never assume your children, your brothers, and your sisters know that you feel this way. The only way to be absolutely sure they know it, is by saying it to them over and over again, just as you should always tell them you love them.
Why does it matter?
There will be times when someone will be alone. One or all of your children may be alone, either by choice or circumstance. The holidays, especially in December when so many people are observing their own holiday, are a difficult time for someone who’s alone. More people get depressed around this time than any other time of the year. Knowing there is someone far away who loves them and will always be there for them, will carry someone who is alone through what may be a difficult time for them. Hearing those words before the holiday comes gives them meaning, so that when they are heard during the holiday, it is known they are given from the heart.
I’d like to wish everyone a wonderful Holiday and a New Year full of love and happiness.