It’s you, your conscience and your faith that matters, not what others think.

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“People are often unreasonable and self-centered. Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives. Be kind anyway.
If you are honest, people may cheat you. Be honest anyway.
If you find happiness, people may be jealous. Be happy anyway.
The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough. Give your best anyway.
For you see, in the end, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway.” Mother Teresa

There will always be people who’ll find fault with something which you’ve done or are doing or will do. Let them. It’s not their life, but yours, to live.

When you need people to be reasonable and to do something that doesn’t benefit them, they will disappoint you. You’ll find they will not listen to reason and will not help you, instead they will remain stubborn and selfish. It’s their nature and their business, so don’t hold it against them. In the long run, they will pay for that behavior, but it isn’t your place to judge them. Accept them for who they are, otherwise it will eat away at your insides, turning you into someone just like them.

When you’re kind to these people, they’ll think you have something up your sleeve, that you’re being sneaky. That’s because it’s something that they’d do if they were in your place. They can’t help themselves. They can’t be kind, unless they have an ulterior motive and think the same of everyone else. You have no ulterior motive, so be kind anyway.

When you’re honest, they’ll think you’re a push over and will try to cheat you. Fight this by being careful, not by becoming dishonest. Remain honest, yet watchful.

When you’re happy, those who can’t find happiness will be jealous. Don’t let their misery take away your happiness, but let your happiness infect their misery.

Few people remember acts of goodness and kindness, but we aren’t good or kind in order to be remembered. We do good and are kind simply because. That is it. There is no need to explain further than to simply say we choose to do good and to be kind.  It doesn’t matter that tomorrow it’ll be forgotten.

There will be times where your best won’t be good enough. Try anyway. What’s important is that you made the effort and didn’t give up. There will be other times where your best will be just enough. Rather than pick and choose, always give it your best effort.

Regardless of which God, Higher Being, or Afterlife you believe in, when the time comes, you will have to reconcile what you’ve done during your time here. Let others think what they want, because it’s you, your conscience and your faith that matters, not what they think.

Never abandon your family

“Let us make one point, that we meet each other with a smile, when it is difficult to smile. Smile at each other, make time for each other in your family.”  Mother Teresa

When everyone else passes you by, when no one else will lift a finger to help you, when you have nowhere else to turn, when it seems that the entire world has given up on you, it is someone from your family who ultimately comes through.

Many family members never see eye to eye. They fight and argue constantly, growling at each other when face to face. That is a fact of life. Family members will always disagree and fight. However, come hell or high water, somewhere deep down there is a longing and a love for other family which can never be replaced by anyone else.

Family members should never stay angry at each other for extended periods of time. Let the rest of the world abandon you, but never abandon family.

There are some things you need to do if you and a close family member are angry with each other. Sit down and talk face to face. Tell the other why you’re angry. Show them the respect and love that can only come from family. And then do something you may not have done before. Sit and listen. Let them tell you what is on their mind. Listen with an open mind, without judging. Wait until they finish before coming to any conclusions. Don’t pre-judge.

The next thing to do is to see things from their perspective. They may appear one way from your point of view, but look at things from the other’s point of view. Put yourself in their shoes. Would you have done the same thing, or acted the same way?

The last thing to do is to smile. No matter what’s happening to the outside world, no matter how much you disagree, you’re still family and deep down that means everything. When you smile, especially in the middle of a tense moment, you’re telling the others that nothing comes between you and family. You’re telling them no matter how hard headed they are, or how stubborn you are, you still love them.

When you smile at a family member, you’re telling them everything’s alright. You’re telling them there is still hope for us. You’re telling them “I’m here for you”.

Life is what you make of it, fight for it

“Life is an opportunity, benefit from it.
Life is beauty, admire it.
Life is a dream, realize it.
Life is a challenge, meet it.
Life is a duty, complete it.
Life is a game, play it.
Life is a promise, fulfill it.
Life is sorrow, overcome it.
Life is a song, sing it.
Life is a struggle, accept it.
Life is a tragedy, confront it.
Life is an adventure, dare it.
Life is luck, make it.
Life is too precious, do not destroy it.
Life is life, fight for it.” Mother Teresa

There is nothing which happens in life that we can’t deal with if we chose to. There is no obstacle or disability which may confront us which we can’t overcome. Many others before us have faced each of these challenges and have overcome them.

If we aren’t able to overcome an obstacle, the fault lies within us. We have given up the fight.

“But look at them” you say, “they have been given everything”. Jealousy is a disease which eats at you from the inside. Don’t concern yourself with what others have. They may have been born with a silver spoon, but because of that silver spoon, they will face other challenges which they will think are impossible to overcome.

“But look at how easy that comes to him. If I was born with those skills, I’d be happy” People are not born with special skills. They develop their talent over time. They spend hour upon hour working on and developing that talent, to the point where they make it look easy. You can do this with anything. Practice and train hard enough and you can make anything look easy. Look at the athletes in the Olympics. They make it look easy. When you’re still sleeping in the morning, they are practicing. When you go to sleep at night, they are practicing. When you relax on the weekend, they are still practicing. No one is born an Olympian. An Olympian is made by hour upon hour of hard work.

“But I have nothing but bad luck, no matter what I do” No one is born lucky or unlucky. Things happen because of your attitude and your belief in yourself. If you continue thinking you have bad luck, you will. If you start thinking that you control your destiny, and not lady luck, things will begin going your way.

“I have no one to help me, I can’t do this on my own” All you have to do is ask, but ask the right person. Look for the right person. When you find that person, don’t be afraid to ask for help. You might be shocked by the response. Many people want to help others. It gives them a sense of accomplishment. Many get back much more in return than what they give of themselves by helping others. You will never find that person being locked up inside. Go to your library, school, place of worship, community group, volunteer groups, special interest groups. There is no end to where you can go to find help. You can also help someone else, and they in turn may help you.

The bottom line is that no matter what life throws at you, never give up or stop fighting. With a strong will, you can accomplish the seemingly impossible. Work at it hard enough, and you’ll be able to make living look so simple that others will think you were born that way!

Once you do that, you’ll begin appreciating what life has given you, the beauty of life.