Silence that inner voice if you want to reach the stars

“It’s not who you are that holds you back, it’s who you think you’re not.” Unknown

How many times have you said to yourself “No, don’t even bother trying for that, you’re not that kind of person”

What holds you back many times from pursuing things that you might enjoy and be good at, is yourself. Before you’ve given it a try, or even given it a serious thought, that voice inside you says “no, it’s not within your abilities to be that type of person.”

“No, you can’t be a writer, because you’re not gifted.”

“No, you can’t be a corporate executive because you don’t have an MBA from Yale or Harvard, or know the right people.”

“No, you can’t be a doctor because you have no money.”

“No, you can’t be an artist because you don’t have the time.”

The people who go on to become one of these learn how to silence that inner voice. They learn there are no boundaries which you can’t cross once you set your mind to it.

The main obstacle holding you back is your inner voice, the one which tells you not to pursue certain trains of thought. You will never know if you’ll be able to do something until you try. One thing is guaranteed though, you will never know if you could do it if you never try.

Silence that inner voice which tells you who you’re not. The more you silence that voice, the more confident you’ll become. As your confidence builds, your chances of reaching your goal greatly increase. You learn by trying and failing, over and over again, until you reach what you’re after.

Silence that inner voice, and then give serious consideration to what you want to do in life. Once you have an idea, go after it with all your passion. Even if you decide that it’s not what you thought it would be, you would have learned along the way. More importantly, you will have become a person who’s more confident in their abilities.

With the right amount of confidence, you can conquer the world!

 

 

Failing means you’re a trailblazer, paving the road for others to follow.

“Aim for success, not perfection. Never give up your right to be wrong, because then you will lose the ability to learn new things and move forward with your life.” Dr. David M. Burns
If you strive for perfection, your chances for succeeding a very slim. If you strive for success, your chances of achieving your goal are much greater. When defining your goal, aim for success first. Once you achieve that goal, then you can aim for perfection.

Success is often built by trying and failing, over and over again. You learn from these failures. If you never fail, what you learn will be very limited. You can duplicate what others have done by learning from their mistakes, but you will never surpass what they did.

It is only when you strike out on your own, into unchartered territory, that you can exceed beyond what others have done. That is when you’ve gone as far as you can go, by using the failures of others as a guide, and begin setting the trail for others to follow, to use your failures as a guide for their success.

 

Failing and being wrong means you tried something different. Always succeeding means that you are doing the same thing over and over again, it means that you prefer the safe road. Never be afraid to fail, or to be wrong.

It simply means that you’re a trailblazer. You just need to remember to learn from these failures, and not to keep repeating them.

There is enough sadness in the world without yours

“Be happy. Talk happiness. Happiness calls out responsive gladness in others. There is enough sadness in the world without yours…. never doubt the excellence and permanence of what is yet to be. Join the great company of those who make the barren places of life fruitful with kindness…. Your success and happiness lie in you…. The great enduring realities are love and service…. Resolve to keep happy and your joy and you shall form an invincible host against difficulties.” Helen Keller

Happiness is infectious. A smile is the only infectious affliction people are encouraged to spread. When you are happy, and you talk happiness, it becomes difficult for those around you not to be happy as well.

There really is enough sadness in the world, with justifiable reasons, such that it is a crime to add your sadness to the mix.

No matter what has occurred in the past, no matter what has happened, always remember that it is in the past, and should not dictate the future. What is yet to be can be the greatest thing to come, if you will it. Once you acknowledge that the best is yet to come, it will happen, over and over again.

To ensure your life is the best that it can be, exude kindness at every possible moment. Kindness begets kindness. Be kind to others, for the simple sake of being kind, and the satisfaction you receive will be greater than anything anyone can give you.  A common trait among the great people remembered throughout history is the kindness they show to their fellow man and woman. No one is remembered for being mean, but there are many who are remembered for being kind.

Success and happiness is controlled from within. These are not controlled or dictated by others. Others can try to influence your actions, but ultimately, it is you who decides what you will do, and how you will feel. Once you know these things, success and happiness will always follow you.

Love yourself and those around you. Serve yourself and those around you. Resolve to always be happy, to spread your joy to others, and you will find that no difficulty shall cross your path that you will not be able to handle and that others around you will always be there to support and help you.

 

The path to success and happiness

“Whatever else may be shaken, there are some facts established beyond warring: virtue is better than vice, truth is better than falsehood, kindness than brutality.” Quintin Hogg

The way to prosperity is through many paths. The way to happiness is through many paths. The way to riches and rewards is through uncountable paths. There are some who would have you believe otherwise. They would have you believe that there is only one path to all of these.

For many, the way to prosperity and happiness is through riches and rewards. The way to riches and rewards is through vice, falsehood and brutality. For them, any other way is for the week and ignorant.

There are a few who will never bend, who will always know that success and happiness comes from being virtuous, kind and truthful. For them, there will never be enough riches or rewards that would alter these constants. They may be tempted, and some may even fall under the temptation, but they will all know what is right from wrong. Those who fall will be forever haunted by their conscience.

Those who acquire riches and rewards through vice, falsehood and brutality will never become content or truly happy. No amount of riches and rewards will ever be enough for them. Their misery is that they will always want more.

History has always shown that virtue is better than vice, truth is better than falsehood, and kindness is better than brutality. Men, women and nations who test these premises have always succumbed to their own vices, falsehoods and brutalities.

And yet, more keep thinking the path to prosperity and happiness is through riches and rewards. The way to riches and rewards is through vice, falsehood and brutality.

The true path to riches and rewards is through virtue, truth and kindness. The path to success and happiness is being content with whatever riches and rewards virtue, truth and kindness bestow upon you.

Failure is an option for too many people these days

“People may fail many times, but they become failures only when they begin to blame someone else.” Unknown

There is nothing inherently wrong with failing. It is how we learn and grow. Very few people are actually successful in their first attempt at anything. We usually try something one way and if it doesn’t work, make a few changes, then try again. That doesn’t mean that we’re failures.

There are people who try to accomplish a certain goal, or task, over and over again. Even if they fail a hundred times, they continue trying. They are not failures. If they accept defeat and give up on that goal or task, they are still not failures. What is important is that they tried as best they could and realized it was something they themselves are unable to accomplish. That is where the honor is, to accept the fact that you cannot succeed 100 percent of the time, to acknowledge that something is beyond your abilities.

When you accept that premise, you learn from it. You learn to change your approach, to try a different tact. You don’t repeat the same steps with the next goal that you did with the previous one, if you know they didn’t work before.

What we see in politics is the exact opposite. No one accepts responsibility for a failure. Mayors, Governors, Congressmen, Senators and even Presidents do this all the time. They try to live up to promises they made. When they are unsuccessful, they find someone, or something, else to blame. When the next task or goal comes along, they try the same approach which failed earlier, again. When that task fails, they again pass the blame elsewhere.

This is why many politicians are failures. Not because they tried something and couldn’t get it done. They are failures because they couldn’t do something and placed the blame elsewhere.

Nothing is impossible. There are many politicians, and individuals, who’ve overcome tremendous odds and failures to achieve success. Abraham Lincoln, Franklin Roosevelt, John F Kennedy, Thomas Edison, Albert Einstein, Henry Ford, Roland Reagan, Winston Churchill, Oprah Winfrey, Vincent Van Gogh, Dr. Seus, Stephen King, JK Rowling, Monet, Michael Jordan, Babe Ruth and even Elvis Presley and the Beatles.

All of them succeeded when others before them couldn’t or when told they should go home. They didn’t go back home, saying ‘well, these people said no’. They kept trying. They tried a different approach if they needed to change. They used the same approach if they knew they were right. Thomas Edison tried 10,000 times to come up with the light bulb before he finally succeeded.

You will never be a failure when you take responsibility for your destiny into your own hands. Passing the blame onto others is an easy way out, and a sure sign of a failure.

If you believe in yourself, never give up

“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” Thomas Edison.

The problem with most of us is that we give up too easily. We make a full effort at something and when it doesn’t work, we move onto something else. Persistence is wanting something so much that you continue trying to reach your goal, no matter how many times you fail.

Most of us make two mistakes in trying to achieve some of our goals. The first is that we give up too easily. After one or two failed attempts, we simply give up, either to find an easier goal, or just stop altogether. The second mistake is that when we do make several attempts, we do them exactly the same way each time, so that the effort is guaranteed to fail.

When Thomas Edison tried to perfect the light bulb, he never wavered from his goal. Each time he made another attempt, he made changes in how he was doing it, knowing that the previous effort failed, and would fail again if he tried the same exact thing.

There’s a 69 year old woman in Korea who failed the drivers written test 959 times, before finally passing it on the 960th try. The woman was illiterate, and spent over an hour on buses to get to the testing site, but she was determined. Each time she took the test, her score kept getting higher. Each time she failed, she would study harder, trying to memorize and understand the questions. Hanging up on a wall where she lives, is a hand written sign that reads “Never give up”

Set an achievable goal for yourself. Then pursue that goal with all your passion, until you achieve it. If you fail, change your approach, try something different. With persistence and determination, you’ll achieve your goal, even if you have to try 10,000 times.

A role model for you and your kids, look no further than Kathy Ireland.

“If we want our children to possess the traits of character we most admire, we need to teach them what those traits are and why they deserve both admiration and allegiance. Children must learn to identify the forms and content of those traits.” William J. Bennett

There are certain traits every person should have in order to live a happy, rewarding and contented life. The best time to develop those traits, such that they become second nature, is when growing up. A child is like a sponge and absorbs what is seen, heard, and taught.

A parents purpose in life is to be the perfect role model for their children. To hear a child say “I want to be like you” is the greatest compliment a parent can hear from a child.

Once children reach a certain age, the age where they begin looking for what makes them happy, they start thinking about their own dreams and aspirations. Some are content to continue following in the parents footsteps. Other teens have different aspirations, or have trouble finding the right one.

If taught the proper traits, those children will succeed no matter which path they follow. What are some of those traits? Honesty, integrity, confidence, fairness, generosity, and above all, a person of good character.

The best way to teach those traits to children is by having them yourself. The next best is to find a role model, with all of those traits and many more, like Kathy Ireland.

Kathy is the symbol of success, not because she is rich and well known. She is a success because she has all of the traits which every child needs to learn to live a happy, rewarding, and contented life.  Kathy became rich and well known because of the person she was, the person she still is.

If you want to find the perfect role model, for yourself, your teenagers, or your younger kids, look no further than Kathy Ireland.

Persistence will beat talent and education any day of the week

“Nothing in the world can take the place of Persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. The slogan ‘Press On’ has solved and always will solve the problems of the human race.” Calvin Coolidge

Talent is great if you have it, but not the end of the world if you don’t. No amount of talent will get you to the stars if you don’t have the will, the persistence, to keep trying.

Education will open doors for you, but persistence and determination will open the vault for you. Talent and education will tell you which doors to open. Persistence and determination will make you open the next door, and the one after it and the next one, till you reach your star.

Talent and education will get you to the middle class. Persistence and determination will get you to the next level. Education, talent, persistence and determination will get you into the one percent and beyond. Look at those around you. The ones who rely on education and talent alone are easy to spot. They are the ones who give up at the first sign of defeat.

All of us know successful people who are less talented, less educated, and not as smart as others, or as we are, yet they are successful. They don’t give up. They do not accept defeat. They keep trying, one failure after another until they succeed.

If you want to succeed, if you want to reach the stars, keep trying, no matter how many times you fail. Keep the slogan ‘Press On’ rubber stamped in your head. When things look bleakest is when the weak quit, and when you must try even harder.

If you sell yourself short, so will everyone else

“If you really put a small value upon yourself, rest assured that the world will not raise your price.” Unknown

We are our own worst enemies. We put ourselves down before giving anyone else the chance to praise us. Aside from most mothers, who know their kids true value, regardless of what we do or say, everyone else will value us based on how we value ourselves.

Don’t sell yourself short. Every living person trying to make something of themselves has a high value. Every person trying to create something, a book, a poem, a song, a drawing, a little box for nick knacks has a high value. Every person trying to raise their kids to have a better life than they had has a high value. Every person who is there to listen to a friend in times of need has a high value. Every person who talks so the quiet ones can listen has a high value.

Never sell yourself short. If you do, no one, aside from your mother will increase the value you put on yourself. If others want to set a low value on you, that is there businesses. There are people all over this world to try to put low value on things. You see them at the flee markets haggling over a fifty dollar item being sold for two dollars.

Sell yourself high. Value yourself based on what you will become in the future. Value yourself based on your abilities, not based on what other try to get away with. They will sell you short in order to make themselves feel superior.

Sell yourself high, put a high value on yourself. Others will take notice, and may even raise your value even higher. You’ll find that you’re standing straighter, your head is higher, your getting a lot more respect and your a much happier and more successful person.

The secret to success

“Formulate and stamp indelibly on your mind a mental picture of yourself as succeeding. Hold this picture tenaciously. Never permit it to fade. Your mind will seek to develop the picture…Do not build up obstacles in your imagination.” Norman Vincent Peale

What this quote means is that to succeed, you need to see yourself succeeding in your mind. Always have it in your mind that you will succeed, always remember it, and remove any doubts or roadblocks to your success.

Doubt is what kills many peoples dreams. The most successful people never doubted themselves, and knew they would one day succeed in reaching their goals.

Knowing you will succeed and removing all doubt from your mind is half the battle. Once you are able to do that, you’ll start finding yourself in the right places, at the right times. This is why less talented people are able to go further than many with talent: they do not doubt themselves, and see themselves succeeding in their mind.