Do you agree with Marilyn Monroe that everything happens for a reason?

“I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they’re right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.” Marilyn Monroe

Everything that happens in one way or another has a direct impact on who you are. How you look at and react to everything that happens around you goes into defining who you are, and the outlook you’ll have on life.

Some people were always meant to be together, and never change. Other people change constantly, never giving enough time for a bond to fully develop. If the person you love now is different than the person you initially met, it becomes easier to let go, to move on.

There are some people, and you’ve met them, who’ve had the perfect life. Everything has always gone right for them. A good number of those people are usually unhappy. They may put on a happy exterior, but when you get to know them, you find out they don’t appreciate anything that they have. Everything has always gone right for them. You look at them and think how lucky they are. They look at themselves and think they’ve been cursed. They can’t appreciate what they have because it came too easy. They’ve never had anything go wrong to make them appreciate what they have.

Experience teaches us not to trust anyone, until they have proven themselves. It is mainly by trusting everyone, and getting lied to enough times, that you learn. If you never experience lies, you begin to trust everyone. In the end you become gullible, a perfect victim for con artists.

Sometimes, when everything seems to be going perfect, they suddenly fall apart. Your resolve and your faith get tested. You feel like giving up. You question how this could happen to you, after all of the struggles you’ve gone through to get to this point.

Being the kind of person you are, who’s suffered one tragedy after another to get to reach that happy place, you pick up the pieces and start rebuilding. But something changes. You try to duplicate what you had, but for some reason, things happen on their own. Initially you question this, blinded by your anger.

It doesn’t become apparent until you’ve finished rebuilding what fell apart that you realize that it was meant to be. That what you’ve had, what you thought was good, pales in comparison to what you have now. You realize that if things didn’t fall apart, you wouldn’t have found what you have now. It could be the person you thought you loved has left you. You don’t realize it was just an infatuation until your perfect mate, your true love, comes along. If the other person never left, you would never have found your perfect love. It could be a job you thought was good, that suddenly isn’t there. You realize you never really loved that job, until you come across a job that you look forward to each morning, and hesitate to leave each afternoon.

When you begin to understand that everything happens for a reason, that bad things don’t just happen to you, is when you really begin to understand and appreciate life. When you understand people change one way, while you change a different way, so you can each go separate ways. It doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you. It only meant the two of you weren’t meant for each other. It is when you come across someone who changes with you, who makes changes that compliment your changes, that things fall together better than before.

Know that every bad experience happens for a reason, and will eventually make you one of the happiest people on this planet.


5 thoughts on “Do you agree with Marilyn Monroe that everything happens for a reason?

  1. I disagree with Marilyn. Her entire quote sounds incredibly self-serving and emotionally immature. People do not change simply so that it is easier for you to let them go. People change, that’s it, and whether or not you can deal with that is your choice. Also something bad should not have to happen for you to appreciate what you have. Her entire rant is basically a bunch of cobbled up platitudes. For example, everything does not happen for a reason: Good and bad things happen and it is up to us as individuals to appreciate or disregard the good and to either learn and grow or be shut down from the bad.

      • The “very well said” goes to you Omar Kiam in your humble admission that “people change because we need them to.” Consider the hunger from being ” starved for affection.” We Americans have perfected the old “carrot and stick” routine. Loneliness makes for a great marketing tool. What was it de Toqueville said?
        I will always stand up for Marilyn!

        “To allow yourself to feel your sorrow is a politically subversive act.”
        – Joanna Macy, “Call of Life”

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