Those who always put down others are failures who don’t matter

“Those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.” Bernard M. Baruch.

From time to time, someone comes along and puts down whatever it is we’re doing at that moment. For some, that put down is a major blow to confidence and to ego. They criticize whatever it is others are doing, without even trying to understand it.

Many people go through life by putting down others, by making a major deal out of everything. Those are the types of people who are unable to accomplish anything on their own, so they try to make themselves feel better by trying to make sure no one else is successful.

They take offense to everything. They berate other peoples work. They take pleasure in making others suffer, in making others give up before they’ve even had a chance. Those types of people will never succeed. The most they can hope for is to stop others from succeeding.

The people who have a good heart, the ones who want to see others succeed, are the only people who’s opinion should matter. Those are people who have confidence in their own abilities. Those types of people don’t mind helping others succeed. They don’t look for the negatives, but rather for any positive which can be used to build on.

People who matter don’t see a badly written story, or a poorly sung song, or a poorly drawn painting. They see potential. They see what could be. The people who matter are the ones who see the bright spots, the little glimmers of talent. While those who don’t matter will see a little bud on a plant, the ones who matter see what will be: a beautiful rose.

Don’t pay attention to people who put you or your work down. They put everything down and do not matter, no one pays them any mind and neither should you. What’s important is to have confidence in your own abilities, confidence that you have talent and that your work has potential. Seek out those who are confident in their own abilities, because those are the ones who matter. The ones who matter will not mind someone else becoming successful, in fact, they will help anyone they see with potential, who has confidence in their own abilities.

Let your conscience be your guide

“There is no witness so terrible, no accuser so powerful as conscience which dwells within us.” Sophocles

The first sign of a normal, moral and just person is having a conscience. The first sign of an immoral, psychopathic, deranged person, is the lack of a conscience, or a warped sense of right and wrong.

Conscience is what nags people who do something they know is not right. People have been known to confess to murder decades after getting away with the crime, because their entire life was unbearable, pursued by their conscience every step of the way. Those people finally find relief only after giving in to their conscience.

A conscience is a very powerful thing. Nurture it and keep it alive. You conscience will keep you on the right path, not the path someone else says is right, but the path deep down you know is right.

Do something against your conscience, and the approval of the entire world would not be enough to save you from a guilty conscience.

Live according to your conscience and not the majority

“If all the world hated you and believed you wicked, while your own conscience approved of you and absolved you from guilt, you would not be without friends.” Charlotte Bronte

What this quote means is that you should follow your conscience, your inner voice, before following the crowd. Let others think of you what they will as long as deep down, within your conscience, you are comfortable with your actions and feel them to be proper.

Live your life according to your conscience, and no matter how many people in the world think you’re wicked, there will be those who will stand up for you, and call you friend.